Really multiple dating is just a code term for: 1) Keeping your options open.
2) Being afraid of commitment because you’re afraid of getting hurt. Some people keep their options open because they want to shag around, they think there’s plenty of fish in the sea, and they also worry that someone who perfectly meets their criteria may be out there somewhere and are afraid of ‘settling’.
Or you’re just way over confident in your ability to hide your indiscretion.
What’s even more revealing, after a look at the top 100 passwords used on the Ashley Madison site, most of the people must not have been too concerned about their privacy. If you have that much trouble remembering your password that you have to resort to using one of those options, you probably shouldn’t attempt juggling the multiple girls you’re dating.
Over the past few weeks in particular, I’ve had quite a few readers tell me that they’re dating multiple people, something I find exhausting just thinking about it, but at the same time rather fascinating because I find that people give me all sorts of reasons for they do it: I’m just experimenting with dating. Remember how you didn’t like it when Mr Unavailable had a narcissistic harem of women he was dipping in and out of for an ego stroke? It’s where you discover the facts that will help you determine whether you should green light, date some more and potentially move into a relationship, or whether you should red light and abort the mission.
Couldn’t you ‘experiment’ with one person for a few dates, see how it goes, and then move on? Do the people who you are dating know that you’re potentially wasting their time? As people no matter what they tell you, don’t always date for the same reasons, dating someone and getting to know them will let you determine through their actions and interactions (not just words and your imagination) whether you are two people on the same page with similar primary values.
Men and women who cheat are so desperate to get laid that they offer up personal information at some point during the affair.
This personal info is a trail right back to your #1 girl.” So, if you’re thinking about dating multiple women when you’re already in a committed relationship, we’re here to say: don’t do it. The same goes with cheating, according to Severson.
That's why I'm an advocate for "volume dating."I dated 30 men in 15 months in order to eventually meet my husband.It's just gotten more buzz ever since Chloe, the infamous party girl and lead character from Of course, I’m not the only 20-something who jumped into a rotation immediately following a breakup.Nina, a 25-year-old accountant living in Chicago, started hers after a four-year relationship ended. And, Monica*, a 25-year-old producer in New York City, can also echo the experience.Rather, my goal was simple: to find a guy I could date more than three times, hoping this would lead to a relationship.Frequently, men would drop out after one, two or three dates.As their search for love heats up, suddenly there are a multiple men who are interested in them and they don't know how to handle it.